Quirofilia: The Sexual Fetish, Explained

There are a plethora of interesting things when it comes to sexuality, but the most fascinating thing is that it’s not black and white. Sexuality, sexual desire and sexual acts themselves are so wonderfully complicated that there really is something for everyone. A lot of this inclusion happens through perversions and fetishes. While the two are not the same thing, a kink or fetish type simply means that your sexual interests fall outside the parameters of what psychologists would consider more common. But that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Enter: Quirofilia.

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Quirofilia is a fetish that involves sexualizing hands. This isn’t just an admiration for attractive hands – because some people have gorgeous hands – but a sexual desire for them. “A true fetish means that the object must be present for arousal and/or orgasm to occur,” AASECT-certified sex therapist Indigo Stray Conger, LMFT, CST told Well + Good. “With Quirofilia, this would mean that looking at, touching, or touching a hand is a necessary part of the sexual arousal of the cycle, and that a person with Quirofilia would be unusually focused on hands as a point of arousal.”

But because Quirofilia is about more than hands-on arousal, Women spoke exclusively with Emily May, AASECT-certified sex therapist and author at Private Sugar Club, and Sofie Roos, sexologist, relationship therapist and author at Passionerad, to find out more experience special fetish. If you thought hands might be your thing, now you can know for sure.

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When it comes to fetishes, hands are usually not the focus. In fact, foot fetishes are the most common, but as they say, different strokes for different people. So how do you know if you have Quirofilia? If you ask, you either don’t have it or have yet to get into it.

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“We can all admire someone’s beautiful nails or how clean their cuticles are, but Quirofilia goes far beyond that,” says Emily May. “It’s an intense, deeply personal attraction to hands that can be powerful attraction for some people . For people with Quirofilia, it’s all about the intricate details, like the feel of the skin, the movement of the fingers and even the natural contours.” . Sometimes it’s not just what hands do, but also the potential of what they can do.” And hands, as we all know, can do many things.

As Sofie Roos explains, if you suffer from Quirofilia, you will see hands as sexually charged objects, rather than just what they are: hands of flesh and blood. “[You] “Is sexually aroused by touching or licking a person’s fingers, while a person who only appreciates beautiful hands does not experience sexual satisfaction, although they may find the stimulation beautiful.” Since hands are often used in sex, you may be confused . If it’s the stimulation that excites you and not the conscious fact that hands are involved, you probably don’t have Quirofilia.

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Because sexual preferences are so individual, there is no one thing that turns every person on with Quirofilia. For some, Quirofilia is an umbrella term for the fetishization of certain parts of the hands, such as the fingernails. For example, if someone has a fetish for long nails, it is called onychophilia. But sexual attraction to nails, fingers, palms, and everything else still requires explanation, if only to gain a deeper understanding of the fetish.

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“Hands have this incredible versatility, connecting with our sense of touch and can be powerful, capable and even seductive,” Emily May tells Women exclusively. From there, it’s all about the details. As Sofie Roos explains, people with Quirofilia are usually aroused by one or two parts of the hands, not necessarily the hand as a whole. “You can get extremely aroused by a certain type of this part of the hand, for example long and thin fingers, a hand with a lot of visible veins, or chubby fingers,” says Roos.

While we can surmise the “why” in this equation, this answer ultimately requires personal consideration. “Why people get aroused by hands is like anything else: people have different tastes in things,” Roos says. However, if you suffer from Quirofilia and embrace this part of yourself, you may feel that sexual desire does not require a thorough explanation. It just is what it is.

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Whether you have Quirofilia or not, if you want to involve your hands more during sex, there are tons of ways to do it. Sofie Roos recommends that when stimulating a partner’s genitals, make sure your hands are visible so they are the star of the show. Paying more attention to your partner’s hands is also a good way to pursue this desire. “Lick and suck her fingers like it’s a [penis] “You gave a blow job,” Roos says. “Use your tongue, lick and kiss the fingers in different ways.” [speeds] and with different depths and pressures.”

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If you want to take things from the bedroom, you can go to another part of the house and ask your partner to do something with their hands. “For example, [watch your partner] Cutting fruit, cooking, writing, painting, knitting or sewing,” says Roos. “Touch yourself or your partner while doing this.” You can also experiment with nail polish colors, rings, hand massages, and other things related to getting creative by making hands a bigger part of your sex life. Roos also recommends using your favorite lubricant to increase the sensations even further.

The best thing about Quirofilia is that, unlike some sexual fetishes that can be intimidating to a new partner, hands don’t often elicit an ick factor. It’s pretty easy to communicate and know that the chances of your partner being judgmental are very low. “It always starts with a conversation about your interests,” says Emily May. “Tell them what you find attractive about hands and what you might like to try.” May suggests starting slowly by simply holding each other’s hands , and then progress to hand massages, but stay relaxed. There’s no point in going from zero to 60, especially with someone who has no experience with someone who has a hand fetish. “Ask your partner what they are comfortable with and keep the lines open for both of you,” May explains. “And most importantly [is] Have fun with it.”

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Sofie Roos agrees that you want to address the issue with your partner and, as May said, talk about it. Your fetish is your own thing and you shouldn’t leave it to an unsuspecting partner. “You don’t have to dismiss it as quirofilia if you don’t feel comfortable with it,” says Roos. “You can instead say that you find hands extremely sexy and that you would like to involve them more during sex.”

If you’re wondering how the heck you developed Quirofilia, or how a fetish even comes about, you’ll be happy to know that the experts aren’t entirely sure. “For all the paraphilic disorders or matters of sexual interest that do not involve typical sexual objects or behaviors, we can wonder how the behavior develops and what impact this might have on lifestyle, but many of these questions remain open. “The psychiatrist Dr. Richard Krueger told Healthline.

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Most psychologists and other experts believe that fetishes are developed in childhood. For example, when you were a child, with the Quirofilia, hands eventually became more than just hands. Instead, they took on a sexual aspect and you couldn’t shake that thought. It could have been something you saw or physically experienced that made you want to find sexual satisfaction in hands, and now here you are, an adult aroused by hands – and that’s okay. It’s more than okay.

As famed sexologist Alfred Kinsey once said, “The only unnatural sex act is the one that cannot be performed.” In other words, you do it. As long as you have sex with a consenting adult, what stops you from doing so is up to you. So lean into your fetishes and preferences and enjoy them.

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