Unmarried father admits he won’t date single mothers who receive child support

Dating as a single parent can be tricky waters, especially for single mothers who, as usual, have to take the brunt of criticism and criticism.

Content creator and father Ryan Powell has apparently added to this conversation after admitting why he’s afraid of dating single moms.

He claimed that he would not date single mothers receiving child support.

“My number one dealbreaker when dating a woman is that she collects child support,” Powell explained.

Recalling a relationship with a single mother who was receiving support from her ex, he claimed she gave him her “support card” during a trip and told him to use it to gas up the car. They then went to the grocery store and she allegedly instructed him to use the card to get beer, wine and food for dinner.

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Although Powell did not elaborate on what exactly he meant by “child support card,” he may have been referring to an electronic payment card that functions and looks like a prepaid debit card and into which child support funds are sometimes deposited. The way child support is distributed varies from state to state and can also be by check or direct deposit.

Powell continued, saying that after that date he began to look at child support differently, although he acknowledged that “not all women” abuse the system.

The unmarried father revealed that his opinion also applies to his own journey with custody and child support between him and his ex.

He claimed that his ex “doesn’t necessarily need to support my child” and that she “does just fine without me giving her money because she can offer my daughter more than I can.” He also accused her of being over her income to have lied.

But as one commentator pointed out, “It is not just the mother’s responsibility to care for the child. Fathers also need to get involved and provide financial support.”

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Powell said that when he thought about the alimony dynamic between men and women, he wondered why he would ever want to date someone who received alimony.

He added that he would be uncomfortable if his ex used the support he gives her for someone else, especially someone she is dating.

It is presumptuous that he assumes that the single mother he dated spent all of her support money on herself and not her child(ren). He doesn’t know the dynamic she has with her ex, her support agreement, or the details of her expenses.

Powell also complained that he doesn’t find it amusing or enjoyable to date single women who constantly complain about their exes and custody agreement issues.

“I will consider every analysis and side with him,” Powell said. “The relationship probably won’t work at all because I probably won’t be on her side. I just can’t stand the drama.”

If he doesn’t want to get caught up in child support disputes or caught between two single parents trying to make co-parenting a success, that’s his prerogative. However, the fact that he sides with a theoretical ex-wife on his hypothetical date is more telling about him than any single mother.

Assuming that most, if not all, single mothers abuse the system is unfair and inaccurate.

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Nia Tipton is a Chicago-based entertainment, news and lifestyle writer whose work explores contemporary issues and experiences.